Monday, January 21, 2008


I think most of my readers here know WhyMommy over at Toddler Planet. She goes in for her surgery tomorrow, having undergone six months of chemotherapy for her Inflammatory Breast Cancer.

I babysat for WhyMommy the afternoon she got her diagnosis. Whereas in her place I would have numbly hidden in the car and sent my husband in to pick up my child, she walked in to get him with the amazing WonderDaddy and chatted. She spoke with bravery and with humor. She said she wanted positivity. She said she was going to beat her cancer because she had to.

I have watched her as she has walked her terrifying path for the past several months with equal grace and courage. I have read her incredible words as she has cried and hurt and educated&#8212and lived. And as she has beat her cancer back.

And all the while she was doing that? She was parenting her two children in her thoughtful and (yes, WM) patient and loving manner. She was being a partner to her husband. She was being a friend to so many. She participated in playgroups and MOMS Club activities with charm and vigor.

She was being a friend to me.

I hope that I have been able to give her a tiny buttress of support in the past few months. The thing is, in this time when she could have justly focused on herself and her family only, she has remained a huge support to the people who know her as well. I know she has been a tremendous support to me.

I adore you, WhyMommy. I can't wait to hear about your successful surgery. I can't wait to hear about your new (boobless) life. I can't wait to see you walk another path, this one far different than the last. I can't wait to be there with you.

All day tomorrow I will be thinking of clean margins, WhyMommy. Clean margins for you.


Stop by and give her some words of support for tomorrow. Write your own post for her as well if she has touched you. And I'm willing to bet she has.


  1. What a beautiful post Stimey!! I'm sure you are a tremendous support to her. Thanks to you (and your link) I have also been able to read and learn from Whymommy.
    I'll be checking your blog and whymommy's blog for the surgery update!
    clean margins....clean margins....clean margins...


  2. We'll be praying hard here! Hugs to WhyMommy!

  3. She's so lucky to have you as a friend. I'm off to wish her well tomorrow.

  4. I adore you, Stimey. Thank you for being such an amazing friend to her.

  5. Yes. What tulipmom said.

    You are a good person, and a good friend.

  6. <3 babe.

    You have been a wonderful support to WM. A person that I am proud to call my friend.

    Email me when you hear news PLEASE!! I am dying here in Australia wanting to be there to hold her hand. And yours.

  7. Keep us posted, Stimey... And thank you for being such a good friend to Whymommy. You sound like a pretty special person, yourself.

    xo CGF

  8. Stimey, just want to pop over from WhyMommy to say that what you are doing for her is really touching...
    Thank you for your big heart.

    I will be checking over here to see updates...

  9. What a wonderful post from a wonderful friend. I don't know what I would have done this year without your friendship. Thank you, Stimey!


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