Monday, April 7, 2008

Something Good Happened Today...

At a bowling birthday party today, Jack dropped a six-pound bowling ball onto the hands of two kids at the same time and all three of them started sobbing hysterically.

That might not sound like a good thing to you, but it was unprecedented for us.

The two kids were crying because their poor little smashed fingers hurt.

Jack was crying because the other two kids were so upset. Or because he caused it. Or because he knew that he did something wrong. Or whatever.

But he cued off of the other kids instead of ignoring the hubbub and wandering off to bowl somewhere else.

We apologized and hugged both injured parties and then Jack ignored the rest of the hubbub and wandered off to bowl somewhere else.

I feel very sad for the munchkins who got smashed (they're okay), but I'm thrilled that Jack paid attention to someone else's emotions.

We take our victories where we can get them.


  1. Hey, I can relate! Victories need not be large to be awesome.

  2. It's always those emotional connections - some emotion sparks to the right neuron and it's SO exciting! Most people would miss it because it would be considered "normal" behavior. Lovely, isn't it?

  3. Way to go Jack! A proud moment, indeed!

  4. well I will go a little further than Notebooks and their 'likeable' *gaffaw* and say that rocks my socks.


  5. Just found you through BlogCatalog, hi! Isn't it amazing what you celebrate now - I remember how happy I was the first time my son came to me crying with a skinned knee (this is the kid who used to crawl up the neighbor's concrete driveway and run into our glass tabletop without a sound.)

  6. Aww - that is a victory. Good for Jack.

  7. That is awesome. Good job, Jack!

  8. That sounds like a wonderful accomplishment. Yeay JACK!

    Our neighborboy Zack is 10 and autistic. Every now and again, if he'd be outside, I'd say, "oh hi Zack. How are you today? What's new?" He wouldn't answer or even look at me. (He's a person who happens to have a hard time communicating -- doesn't mean he shouldn't be acknowledged when I see him.)

    One Halloween night, he and his family knocked at our door. After I gave everyone their candy, he said, "Lisa" as plain as day. He has a difficult time speaking and only has a few words he speaks often. So the fact that he said my name blew his family and me away. It actually made me tear up and still makes me tear up when I think of it.

    Just saying... As someone who has a child who's had some issues, I fully understand that those "little" victories aren't so little.

  9. I have a question for you, lady.

    Have you explained Autism to your kids yet? My neighborboy has autism (Doesn't speak much, makes noises) as well as the sister to my son's best friend. (She is verbal and just needs some help in school.) My son sees these kids often and has picked up on their behaviors being different than most of the kids he's with. Is there a way (that you've found) to explain to kids what Austism is? I just keep repeating that kids with austism have brains that work a different way. And that these kids have talents, feelings and favorite things just like him. But I don't think he "gets" the "work differently part."

    Also, I read one of your back posts about having alot of opposition from friends and family when you mentioned your Austism fears. I can completely relate. Before Seth was diagnosed with Sensory Integration Dysfunction, I had all kinds of people telling me there was "nothing wrong." My husband even accused me of "looking for something to be wrong." But like you, it was one of those gut feelings that something wasn't right.

    Now I'm getting that "something's not right" feeling again. He's got an appt with a dr for ADD issues this month as well. In watching his behavior and doing the research -- I strongly suspect. But am again, meeting with opposition.

    But Jack's got a great mama! You've been his biggest advocate and you're getting him the help he needs. He doesn't realize it yet, but that's one of the biggest, best gifts you'll give him throughout his life... And you're setting an amazing example for your other children. They see mom fighting for Jack and know you'd fight for them. What an amazing life lesson for them.

  10. that is very exciting...i just emailed you back, when you have time..thanks


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