Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Comments Welcome

Blog comments. If you're anything like me you love them. They're feedback, they're advice, they're signs of the community I am a part of.

Some days, on some posts, they make me so grateful for all of you.

My way of responding to comments has evolved since I started this blog. At first I would respond in the comments section. But then I realized that most of you probably don't check back. So now if I get a comment that asks a question, gives me something to riff off of, or is something that gives me something to say, then I will try to email the commenter with a response.

Some of your email addresses come through with your comments. Some of you I track down through your blogs and find your email addresses. Some of you I cannot find an email address for to save my life. (You people either get answered in the comments section or in my heart.)

Know that if you don't hear back from me, it's not because I didn't read your comment. It's not because I didn't think your comment was important. Depending on my mood and the subject matter, your comments have often made me laugh out loud or burst into tears. Sometimes I just hold comments for myself.

There are some comments that mean a lot to me, that speak to me, that give me something to think about. I may not ever respond to these comments, but at any given time I have several old comments in my inbox that I reread several times before I delete them.

Sometimes I keep these comments because they make me laugh. Usually I keep them because they give me helpful advice and moral support that I really need more than once.

I don't respond to all my comments, nor do I comment on every blog I visit (and I try to visit the blogs of all my commenters), but I value every single comment and reader I get here, and I just want to let you (Yes. You.) know how much your support means to me.

Thank you.


Today went much better than yesterday. Jack wasn't even remotely upset about going to school. According to his communication notebook, he still had a pretty rough day, but we're both hanging in there. Again: thank you.


  1. I read you via RSS feed since we met at the Kung Fu Panda thing (my wife is over here and at DC Metro Moms too), so I don't normally comment since I'm off in Google Reader Land.

    Ours isn't quite so difficult as yours (he's very high functioning Asperger's, but I think you knew that), and we only have the one, but he definitely has his moments and I can empathize with what you're going through.

  2. Yeah that today went better.


  3. I totally understand where you're coming from on this issue. It's hard to want to respond to every comment but there's only so much you can do.

    BTW, being the smart @ss I am, I was sooooo tempted simply write:

  4. Wonderful that things went better today. LOVE

  5. You really are such a sweet thing

  6. I totally understand what you're saying about the comments, I wish blogging had existed when Andy was little. It has to help to get advice and laughs and sometimes your own little cheering section.

    But I tell you what - you get such supportive comments because you and your posts touch US.

    I admire your honestly and your willingness to put it all out there. So thank YOU Stimey, for sharing and letting us into your life.

  7. And can I just say that I have emails that I also keep to read over and over. And yes- some are from you.

  8. I try and leave comments whenever I read someone's blog, however inane my comment might be.

    And on the flip side, I love getting comments on my own....but find it hard to respond to them all. Thankfully (sadly) I haven't had many comments of late, but it sure it does make it easier to respond to them. :)

  9. Wait. Do you mean to tell me that it's ok to delete comment notification emails?? I think I still have every single one I ever got. What happens if I delete them all and I NEED one of them??! ;)

    (Yay to Jack having a better day!)

  10. Ditto to what bettejo said!

  11. I rarely respond to comments, but comment on other people's blogs. i specifically only read a few blogs now (via google reader), because the commenting became a chore, which just isn't how I roll. I don't know which is better...watching the kids grow, learn, progress, etc.... or the mommies. :)

  12. Aw, you are a sweetie. Love your blog!


  13. I didn't comment on the last post, but I'm glad things are better. I just wanted to say I'm so grateful for blogs like yours: Reading about the good, the bad, the sad, the painful, the difficult, the happy, the downright hysterical--it has all been invaluable to me as I ponder what autism has in store for us. I'm a mom of two boys, so I can completely relate to your stories about your three!


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