Friday, October 31, 2008

DCMM: A Long Trip For a Short Marriage?

This past week I endured 4 a.m. wakeup calls, grumpy children, and some serious plane vomiting to drag my family of five from DC to San Francisco for my sister's wedding. It was a beautiful ceremony, attended by my sister's two children and eight other guests. The couple is very much in love...and the marriage may well end next Tuesday.

Last Tuesday my sister married her same-sex partner. Next Tuesday is the day California votes on Proposition 8. Prop 8 is a proposed amendment to the California constitution that would eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry, something that is currently allowed in California.

I don't know how that will turn out; it is definitely one of the highest profile propositions I've heard about. All I know for sure is that I spent an afternoon at San Francisco's City Hall on Tuesday, and all I saw was a lot of happy families.

I wondered if my kids would ask why Aunt Ann and Aunt Stephanie were getting married. My oldest had asked a couple of years ago about why they were two girls, and we had another brief chat before we left for California, but none of my three kids even batted an eye.

There was a lot of sitting around and waiting while my sister and her partner got their license, took photographs, and then had their ceremony, so we got to watch a lot of other couples and families, some of whom were getting married in the rotunda, some of whom were taking photos, one of which had brought their dogs to be part of their ceremony.

In fact, my kids had more questions about the dogs and their flamboyant, sparkly neckwear, than they did about why those two men were kissing.

It was a fun place to hang out for a few hours.

It was also really wonderful to see my sister get to marry her partner. They had their own private ceremony nearly three years ago, but it meant a lot to them to be able to do it legally. They weren't making a political statement either. They were making a family.

Legally their marriage may only last a few more days. I hope not, but it might. I do know that their marriage will last forever where it really matters—in their hearts and family.

Original DC Metro Moms Blog post.

Jean also writes at Stimeyland and The Junk Pyramid.

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