Monday, November 17, 2008

Are They Twins?

When my sister and I were growing up, people asked my mom this question all the time. Even once we were teens and looked nothing alike (I thought), people still asked us if we were twins.

See, my sister is 17 months older than me and we have enough similarities that people could ask. I always thought people were crazy.

Sam and Jack are 19 months apart, and ever since I gave them identical bad haircuts a month or so ago, people keep telling me how much alike they look. One stranger even went so far as to ask if they were twins.


One of these things is not like the others...

I think they may have to get used to the question.

I wish I could find a photo that better shows how alike they look. But they do. And Jack looks exactly like Sam looked 19 months ago. It's a trip.

It seems to be one of the perils of baby bunching—having kids fewer than two years apart. How many of you other baby bunchers get the twins question?

27 comments:

  1. I have 3 kids - currently 9, 7, and 5. The two older girls (who are very different sizes) get the question all the time, and the younger girl and boy also get it. They think it's great. Maybe it will come in handy someday. Might be an easy Halloween costume!

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  2. I have 3 kids - currently 9, 7, and 5. The two older girls (who are very different sizes) get the question all the time, and the younger girl and boy also get it. They think it's great. Maybe it will come in handy someday. Might be an easy Halloween costume!

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  3. my brother is 14 months younger than me and growing up and even now that we're in our early 20s, we get asked that fairly often. he and my older brother have even been asked that and they're 5 years apart.

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  4. I don't think I baby-bunched. Mine are just over 2 years apart and no, we never got the question. But I love that - baby-bunching. I might have tried it if I had known it was a thing!

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  5. I get that all the time, which always surprises me since they are two years apart. Usually, it is when they are in a shopping cart and people can't really see the size difference. However, the size difference is pretty small, since their weights are only 4 pounds apart.

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  6. I have a 7(boy) 6(girl) and 4(girl) the 2 girls who are 22 months apart. I am always getting asked if they are twins. I have even gotten had to argue with complete strangers that they were not twins. (I was there and trust me they are not twins) some people.

    This year the younger one is in pre k which is in the the other two's school. Teachers and kids have called after the younger one asking where she was going thinking she was the older one.

    For the record they are the same height and weight and have the same hair color other then that they look and act different.

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  7. I've gotten the question a lot but not about any of my siblings (my brothers are 8 and 12 years older than me) but about one of my friends whom I call my little sister. We are a little under a year apart from each other and it's scary how much we look like. Everywhere we go, we get asked if we're twins and no one believes us when we say that we aren't even related. Funny how that happens.

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  8. Yes, I get asked about my older 2 ALL them time (6 and almost 4) and they are almost 2 1/2 years apart. I think they look like sisters, but not at all like twins, especially when standing up. We'll see how the littlest one does since she looks so much like Sydney when she was a baby. Although I do have a friend who has twins and the one is so much taller than they other, they almost DON'T look like twins...life is crazy!

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  9. I have to admit, I sometimes get confused about which kid I'm looking at, Sam or Jack, when you post photos.

    Poor Quinn. You know they are going to tell him he was adopted.

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  10. Sam and Jack look a lot more alike than my twins ever have. Just a biological throw of the dice, but I'll bet there are lots of relatives that have their smile. I have had people argue that my girls can't be twins.

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  11. The picture of Jack in the recliner with Quinn, the first thing that popped into my mind was how much he looked like Sam. And the 2nd was how much your Quinn reminds me of my Mooser. They can be pseudo-twins if Quinn ever feels left out. ;)

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  12. I get the same thing - I always get asked if they are triplets - despite the size difference. The older two are also mistaken as twins.

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  13. My kids are 8 and 5 -- I am constantly asked that and the oldest (who is shorter than average for her age) HATES it. I can't decide if people ask because they are within 6 inches of each other or if it is because they are Asian and look nothing like me. They also don't look that much alike and are not biologically related to each other.

    Although the oldest hates the twins comment we all like that one better than "are those your kids" or "are they REALLY brother and sister."

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  14. My first thought was that the person who asked if they were twins was delusional or stupid because, um, there are THREE children in that picture.

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  15. Never because my middle child is so small for his age and his brother is average height. Now I have gotten that question for the middle child and his sister who are actually 3 years apart! (Not popular with the middle child of course...)

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  16. Well I actually have twins. But people don't always ask if they are twins. And not just because they are a girl and a boy. For the first year, the boy had a full head of hair and the girl was completely bald. People automatically assumed he was older. Now that she is only partially bald (I'm still waiting for that hair damn it!) people do ask about them being twins.

    But I always hear about how much my two boys look alike. I *sort of* see it... We'll see. They would be considered baby bunched being 18 months apart - but the older boy is HUGE and the younger boy is TINY so you would never think they were twins.

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  17. Half the reason I want to have kids is so I can give them haircuts myself. The other half of the reason is so I can put them on the little bike seat that fits on the back of an adult bike, and then take them on daytrips.

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  18. 3 boys here too, I get the question all the time, and I don't think my older two look alike at ALL. The baby looks EXACTLY like my middle child, so I am pretty sure there will be more of the same.

    I have always (as long as I have read your blog) thought Sam and Jack looked like twinkies:)

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  19. Your boys are darling and don't look like twins. But that's because we have our own version of this this at home....my kids are 3-4 inches different in height and about 5 pounds different in weight. At 3 and 4 1/2, you really can't even tell who did what drawing. ;-) Thanks for the plug!!!

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  20. Actually, to me, Jack and Quinn look like (fraternal) twins ... are they pretty close in height at this point - or is it just the camera?
    Growing up, as I was taller than my 2-years-older sister, *everyone* thought I was the older child. This was very annoying to her, though not to me! : )

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  21. Oh, I do. And mine are so little, I didn't expect it. But that's my fault, cause I often dress them alike or in coordinating shirts.

    I don't know why...

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  22. I get that and the boys are 2 1/2 years apart and look nothing alike. It happens when I've got them dressed somewhat similar. Goes to show that people really, really don't look below the surface.

    My favorite is when my sister is asked if her boy/girl twins are identical. Uh, no. One has a penis.

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  23. My sister and I are 10 1/2 months apart, everybody thought we were twins!

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  24. My two boys are 15 months apart, and, they are 2 and 3 right now, and I get the twins question a lot. Maybe a little less more recently, as my 3 year old recenly lost that baby look and suddenly looks like a big kid. But when they were 1 and 2, I got asked that ALL the time.

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  25. Deirdre (double baby buncher)December 5, 2008 at 5:32 PM

    I get it fairly often, especially when they're piled in the shopping cart or sitting in the double stroller. but I get the comment for my 1st and 2nd (19 months apart) and 2nd and 3rd (17 months apart) LOL

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  26. I have 6 year old identical twin boys and a 4 year old daughter . . . the girl child is about the same size as the boys and when we are out in public, with all three, at a minimum we will have 1 person ask if they are triplets. Fortunately, my boys take it well.

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  27. My sis and I are 13 months apart so we were always mistaken for twins...especially when my mom dressed us alike!

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