Monday, March 2, 2009

Here's Something Fun!

Do you want to know something weird about me? You know how people talk about their kids and they're all, "Oh, the boys went to the park," or, "The girls are at the mall"?

I am almost physically incapable of making such a statement.

As it is more relevant to my situation, I will discuss this in boy terms.

I dislike the phrase "the boys" soooooo much that it really kinda pains me to even write it. I cringe when I hear someone else say it.

I don't know why that is. It's weird, huh?

You may have noticed that in virtually every case that I have written about my children on my blog, I refer to them as "the little dudes." In fact, I would be willing to lay down good money on a wager that this is the first post in which I have used the term "the boys."

I have been like this since way before I had kids. Even then I was consciously aware of how I felt about that phrase. Reading John Elder Robison's book, Look Me in the Eye, gave me an a ha! moment when I read that he just couldn't refer to certain people by their names; he had to give them his own names. Different, but the same, you know.

Lest you ever think that words are not powerful.

18 comments:

  1. That's how I feel about "the twins".

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  2. I have to say I always go with "the boys", rarely even "the kids".

    I do pity my nephew, who is the youngest of five, with four sisters. Even with him at five, I often fall back on their family as 'the girls".

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  3. Ooops! I say "the boys" or "boyos" all the time. Hope I am not too painful to listen too. It's just that I get too confused with their names to get it right all the time (I just tend to mix them up) so I go with the plural so I don't have to go there. Sometimes I say #1 and #2 (can you imagine if I had more than 2 kids? What a mess I would be! Only two and I can't keep em straight).

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  4. i call mine "the boys" all the time too. but I get what you're saying--i have aversions to certain names, too.

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  5. My dad had a cousin Dicky... I could never bring myself to saying his name... I'm not sure why!

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  6. Wow! I am so guilty of this. I guess I do it just because I am so damn DELIGHTED to be able to have them both, and I'm trying to raise them to depend on each other, and identify as a team ... but is it weird to say "the boys" or "(Lastname) boys" in public?

    Wow! I honestly never thought about it.

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  7. I say "the boys" when I'm specifically talking about Oliver and George. I say "the twins" when I'm specificaly talking about George and Eleanor. And I say "the kids" when I'm talking about all of them. Oliver and Eleanor are just "Oliver and Eleanor" since they don't have the same gender or birthday.

    Now that you mention it, "the boys" does sound kind of precious if there aren't any girls to exclude.

    I want to read Look Me in the Eye - particularly since I've read about the author in his brother's books.

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  8. I say the boys in my blog a lot I think or in phone conversations. Otherwise, they have a gazillion nicknames. :) And I enjoyed the 1st part of that book, but then it was incredibly boring for me once he was "an adult". I listened to it on audio books, so maybe that's why.

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  9. I'm going to guess that you don't have any "girlfriends" - right? I hate that word.

    I only have one kid, so it's hard to think what I would say if there were two girls. However, I often just refer to her as "the girlie". Dunno why. Now sometimes she calls herself the girlie.

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  10. Interesting...I pretty much always refer to Hunter and Jacob as "the boys." The munchkins or punks are a close 2nd though.

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  11. At my house it was - the girl-child and the boy-child. Some things are just easier when you have one of each.

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  12. I still say "the girls" and then have to edit for "girls and boy". After six years you would think I could pull it together.

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  13. Can you say "my boys"? or "my guys"?
    L

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  14. Yes, that is a little weird... :)

    I like referring to my son and husband as 'my guys' or 'the guys' b/c my husband is not a boy-
    it is sometimes quite crazy how much he can enjoy playing with my son's toys, but still, he is a man.

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  15. Hmmm...I'm one of seven. First 3 girls and then the four boys. The first two boys were always "the boys" and the last two were always the "puppy dogs". Oddly even though they are all in their 40s now when we conversing with mom on the phone "the boys" still means just those first two. Funny eh?

    I like to call families with all boys "the men." Like how are you and your "Merry Men"? Is that better than boys? Inquiring minds want to know! -M

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  16. I am like that with a lot of words, I can't bear to hear them. Its sort of weird. Some words, I just hate how people pronounce them. For instance I hate how my mom says "Put this in recycle" or "the recycle bin" because to me it should be "recycling," and I actually shudder with irritation when she says it that way! And I hate when Diana refers to fastfood burgers as "sandwiches," such as, "What kind of sandwich do you want, a Big Mac or a Double cheeeseburger?" Sometimes I hate when people say they're going to "warm up" their food. There are certain other words I just hate at all times, although I can't think of any right now. I never met anyone else like that... I always thought I was just irritable, but maybe its an aspie thing!

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  17. Yep, I can't say "the kids." It creeps me out somehow. I'm ok with "the children," although it does sound rather formal...

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  18. I really liked that book a lot.

    Since I have one of each, I don't run into that problem. There are expressions that make me cringe, though, although I can't really think of one at the moment, of course.

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