Friday, February 19, 2010

I Tip My Hat to You

You guys. I'm speechless. I am constantly floored by you, my readers and commenters. You are all so wise and thoughtful. You blew my mind, this time in a good way, with your comments, emails, and tweets after my last post.

THIS is community. (And I know I shouldn't be surprised, but I am constantly amazed by this community.)

THIS is why social media is powerful.

THIS is why social media really matters.

So many of you came out of the woodwork to give me moral support, stories about yourselves and your children, and some good ol' solid practical advice—including ideas for places to find social groups for Jack as well as suggestions for proposals to take to Jack's team at school.

I have heard from special needs parents, special educators, teachers, parents of typical kids, people without kids, and all combinations thereof. I also got comments from many of you who were previously lurking here. Thank you all. You lift me up. Your experience, wisdom, and just plain old kind words are amazing to read.

I am also especially pleased to see that I have readers with autism who like what I write. As a mother of a child with autism who will grow up to be an adult with autism, I am glad you appreciate what I say here. I want so badly to be respectful to Jack and his autism, so to hear from you on the spectrum means a great deal to me. Your presence here, and your words, are valuable and always welcome.

So thank you. There are a lot of reasons for me to write in this little space here, but you guys, all of you, are the biggest reason I keep coming back.


I want to say one more thing. Jack has a good team at his school. They are good to me and to him. Some of them, including at least one who I know reads here, I consider to be personal friends. I know they want what is best for Jack, but sometimes best intentions get lost in the shuffle of everyday life, work, and a busy day at school. I am going to take your ideas and mine to them and we will work something out for Jack. I know we will. We have to, right?


  1. Yes. We have to, and so we will.

  2. Whoops, I feel like I missed the boat on the last post, I read it and was terribly sorry, but had nothing to offer besides sympathy.

    Oh, and the fact that you are a great mom, and you haven't missed anything. You are doing an exemplary job with your children, you're as on top of things as you one can be.

    Don't beat yourself up.

  3. Oh I know you will because you are such a wonderful advocate for Jack and are blazing a trail for all other parents of kids on the autism spectrum!

  4. I had nothing to offer in your last post, seeing as Teo's 3 years (probably more!) behind Jack. But I too loved seeing the response--from parents of kids with ASD AND from the kids with ASD themselves. That really, really gave me hope, since when I'm not obsessINg
    over where to send Teo next fall, I obsess over his future and how he'll manage when his parents die.

    Good for you and Jack for having a great team in place!

  5. Yeah well, we kind of like you.

  6. Sometimes even the best and most attentive of us can use some fresh ideas and perspective. Which is why we write blogs, yes? To get some new input?

  7. That was a staggering post, and an amazing set of responses. I don't have a lot of personal insight into the issues facing Jack, but the comments were fascinating. My 6yo rarely knows anyone's name either. I won't say she's isolated, but like a bunch of other people said, she's just not that concerned with putting a name to a face. He's a lucky one, your Jack. He's got you.

  8. Dang, I missed your post about Jack during my family drama. But I am so with you on the power and wonder of this community of ours. It's a wonderful thing to be a part of.

  9. Oh love. My issue has been the assonant way: at the END of the gathering he knows only a few traducement, and the succeeding year he has a lot of affect remembering if he's been in categorise with any of the kids before. His kindergarten teachers detected it and were really concerned---but exclusive because that's one of the skills they prove. Hour of his opposite teachers has ever detected (or if they've noticed, they haven't said/done anything nigh it).
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