My friend Susan is all I have been thinking about for the last few days. I love that woman so much.
You may have seen the slide shows that Teach Mama put together for her to watch. They’re full of photos of friends of Susan’s. They are beautiful. When making them, she suggested that we take photos of ourselves with a word that we felt describes Susan.
For a lot of reasons, I chose “THOUGHTFUL.” I chose that word because it combines two things that Susan has so much of: brains and heart. There are so many times that I have watched her make thoughtful, active decisions when so many others (i.e. me) would just flail away and hope shit worked out. There are also so many times when she could have legitimately been focused solely on herself only to reach out to me about something going on with my family. I’m not the only friend she does this for either. She is an extremely giving person.
As I’ve been thinking of her so much over the past few days, so many stories and memories came to mind. I remember back in the day when I first knew her and her older son was such an adorable little guy then (still is, although bigger now) who would wander around during our moms’ club meetings, winning the hearts of all the moms there. There was the night she and I and another friend got together to share our wedding photo albums with each other. I spent a big chunk of that night cuddling with her sweet second son, who was just a baby at the time. Recently, I would go over to her house with Big Gulps for each of us and we would drink them and talk. It’s kinda our thing.
So many good memories. So much laughing. And every time I hang out with her, I swear I learn something. Her husband is such a great partner for her and has always managed to be charming and delightful when I’ve been around. (Even that day years ago when he was trying to work on his important, you know, SPACE STUFF on his laptop on the couch as I chased my three recalcitrant kids around their living room in an effort to extract them from his house.) I am grateful to have gotten to know him as well.
A couple of weeks ago, I was there when the sun came out from behind a cloud, activating this little solar powered rotating prism he had gotten for Susan. We sat in the swirling rainbows that her husband had given her. It was really cool.
And her kids. Everything is for her sweet, beautiful kids who have always been so kind, creative, and fun.
Susan is an extremely loving, present, smart, fun, brave, wonderful, strong woman. I love her dearly and am so grateful to have her in my life.
Susan has given a lot, be it to her family, to her friends, to women in science, or to women fighting cancer. It’s our turn. I know a lot of you want to share your love with her too. If you are so inclined, share a memory or a love note with Susan on the WhyMommy Love Fest Facebook page. Send mail to her at her P.O. box: Susan Niebur; 11006 Veirs Mill Road, Suite L-15 #112; Wheaton, MD 20902. If you pray, know that she does too, and I’m sure she would welcome your prayers.
As for me, it’s simple. Here is what I have to say: Susan, I love you. Always. I just want you to know that.