We Will Meet What Comes

It’s not okay.
It’s not going to be okay.
But we will meet what comes.

I am heartbroken by the presidential election. I am scared. I am furious. I don’t normally write about politics here, now choosing to use this blog as a family scrapbook and photo album, but this is something we need to remember. We need to remember and note the day that hate won the presidency.

It’s not okay.
It’s not going to be okay.
But we will meet what comes.

People say we should get over it. But someone drew swastikas on the wall at my neighborhood middle school. Someone wrote “kill kill kill blacks” on the wall at the school where Jack spent the last two years of elementary school. Someone defaced banners at a church in a neighboring town with the words, “Trump’s America Whites Only.” We need to see this and count this and stand up to this.

It’s not okay.
It’s not going to be okay.
But we will meet what comes.

My kids cried the morning after the election. Alex and I hugged them and told them it would be okay. (I don’t think it’s going to be okay.) A week after the election, hundreds of kids from area high schools walked out of class to protest Donald Trump. Hundreds of internet commenters spewed hatred at these children who were using their voices and their feet to protest in the only way available to them—one of the most fundamental and American ways of getting heard. We need to watch those kids so we can protect them and follow their lead.

It’s not okay.
It’s not going to be okay.
But we will meet what comes.

Thousands have protested Donald Trump. People on his side say it is unfair. They say that if Clinton had won and they had protested that Democrats would be enraged. (I think we would have been afraid.) That might be true, but if they were peacefully protesting, they would be exercising a fundamental right as Americans. We need to remember these rights and guard them—rights to speech, to assembly, to religion, to a free press.

It’s not okay.
It’s not going to be okay.
But we will meet what comes.

Trump voters say the election is over and we need to accept the results. To that I say that we have accepted the results. Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama have accepted the results. Power will peacefully transition. But we who see Donald Trump as a dangerous man get to tell other Americans and the world, “THIS IS NOT US. WE WILL FIGHT THIS. WE DO NOT SUPPORT DONALD TRUMP AND HIS HATE.”

It’s not okay.
It’s not going to be okay.
But we will meet what comes.

It probably hasn’t really been okay for a long time. This racism, this homophobia, this misogyny, this anti-immigrant, -Muslim, -disability country has been this way for years, decades, centuries. At least now everyone can see it—not just its traditional victims. We have to keep our eyes open so we can witness and aid and fight.

It’s not okay.
It’s not going to be okay.
But we will meet what comes.

Censorship and bullying of the media. The Supreme Court. The Department of Justice. Climate change. International relations. Human rights. Immigration. Marriage equality. Reproductive rights and freedoms. Healthcare. Medicaid. The criminal justice system. Environmental protections. Education. Police reform. Disability policy. Living as a citizen of the world. Everything is at risk. We all need to put our elected officials’ phone numbers and addresses on our desks and speak up every time this administration tries to hurt us.

It’s not okay.
It’s not going to be okay.
But we will meet what comes.

People look at their lives and their situation and say, “I didn’t want this, but I will be all right.” We must not do that. We must care about our neighbors and the people who live across the city from us. We must care for the vulnerable among us as if they were our children. We must know that even if we think this election doesn’t really affect us on a day-to-day level all that much, it will have personal, devastating effects on others and we must not turn away from them.

It’s not okay.
It’s not going to be okay.
But we will meet what comes.

This is not just another election. (It’s not okay.) Donald Trump and the people around him are dangerous to our country and its people. (It’s not going to be okay.) We must be strong and loud and not let fear silence us. Those of us with the privilege to be able to fight must do so, if not for ourselves, for others. (But we will meet what comes.)

I am a firm believer in free speech. I always have been. You have every right to say whatever you might want to in this country. But that does not mean that you can say whatever you want to in my comments section. I have close LGBTQ+ family. My family is neurodiverse. I believe in Black Lives Matter. I know that most Muslims are peaceful. I am aware that immigrants play a vital role in America. I am scared and millions of others are scared with me. No one will be allowed to scare others here.

It’s not okay.

It’s not going to be okay.

But we will meet what comes.

20 thoughts on “We Will Meet What Comes

  1. I, too, am scared.

    But we will meet what comes.

    I was thinking all this but you said it so much better than I ever could. So proud of you!

  2. Thank you for writing this. Those three lines will be my new mantra. I was literally just scrolling through facebook feeling worse and worse, spiraling downward, telling myself to get off facebook, when I saw your link. WE will met what comes. we WILL meet what comes. love you!

  3. I cannot tell you that it’s going to be okay, because it isn’t. But I can tell you that you will not stand alone.

    I cannot tell you not to be scared. I’m consumed with fear–for my family, my community, and my fellow citizens who now find themselves the targets of vicious people emboldened by institutionalized hatred. I fear the loss of precious civil rights and hard-won social gains for marginalized groups. I fear for the loss of women’s rights, for our suddenly precarious national security, for the irreversible damage that human-caused climate change will do. I fear that the great evil my grandparents fled is rising anew in a land they once believed was a safe haven.

    But when you feel overwhelmed and want to curl into a fetal ball and give up, I will speak for you, and you will do the same for me when my voice fails me, and we will both speak for the others who can’t.

    Be scared. Be angry, too. But also be strong, both for yourself and for everyone who needs your words and your power and your love, and we will be strong for you, too.

    We will meet what comes, and we will not go down without a fight.

  4. I’m Canadian, so that colours my views a little, but posts like this are the thing that makes me most hopeful for the future.

    Know that many of us up here are right there with you (as much as we can be) in pursuit of peace, respect and dignity and freedoms for all.

  5. Thank you. You have a gift for words. We will need people like you over the next four years to rally those on the side of good.

  6. “Trump voters say the election is over and we need to accept the results. To that I say that we have accepted the results.” YES. We HAVE accepted the results, and THAT IS WHY we are so horrified and afraid. “The results” = something that is coming next, not something that is over and done with.

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  8. I came here from Would Coulda Shoulda. I think you must live near me– one of my 10-year-old daughter’s friends– a biracial girl– attends the school where the graffiti was painted. And my 15-year-old son, with his whole English class, every single kid, walked out of class on Monday.

    These are scary times to be sure. But when I was doing laundry today I found a safety pin on my daughter’s turtleneck. I hadn’t noticed she was wearing it– it was her own idea to put it on. I almost cried when I saw it.

  9. I told my 13 year old daughter this week that I would back her play in a school protest/walk out if she chose to participate; I just needed her to call me first so I knew what was going on and could support her/keep her safe. I never thought I would find myself saying that to one of my kids. And yet, here we are.

  10. I am angry, really angry about this election for so many reasons. But this one in particular — I have so much on my plate right now. There is advocacy and support that I need to do for my family that has nothing (and yet everything) to do with politics. But I can’t sit back and not do something to fix this. But I am tired of fixing other people’s shit. That is what the results of this election feels like. And I do realize how condescending that sounds.

    I wish I could tell the people I know who voted for the President-Elect “You broke, you fix it”. But I don’t trust them anymore. I realize that most of us who voted for Hillary probably wouldn’t vote in a Republican primary but I am seriously thinking about it for 2018. Fingers crossed we actually have mid-term elections.

  11. With malice toward none, with charity for all.
    Frankly, I’m scared, too. There’s all too much malice in our incoming administration, and little, no, NO charity at all.

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